if you don’t believe fetishizing homosexuality is a problem, take a look at what mass media has done to lesbianism through out the eighties until now: propagated the idea that it’s a “kinky” side adventure for men to enjoy in a heterosexual relationship but not a real lifestyle, how many times you’ve heard someone ask you or your female partner or you’ve heard or seen someone ask a lesbian and her partner “can i watch?” and then ask you/them invasive personal questions as though a lesbian relationship is public domain. it’s been taught en masse that these relationships are public domain and only exist specifically as temporary, exotic bedroom activities.
think about that; how many instances in pop culture there are of undermining the reality of these relationships by demeaning them as less than real. there are examples of married men in any number of films, specials,and television programs flippantly ask their wives to invite another woman into the bedroom to “spice things up” or fulfill their fantasy with no more reaction to the request than a joking, snide comment, treating the relationships as comedy, female pop stars making out with other female pop stars for shock value and ratings, participating in these things flippantly, and acting as though they’re less deserving of the respect that their heterosexual counterparts earn because they’re not serious, just theatrics.
then look at male homosexuality, how the media today is beginning to do the EXACT same thing to those relationships, promoting queerbaiting and playing up subtext to make commercial profit, and tell me just how you believe it’s not a problem when it’s this kind of debasement and dismissal of these relationships as serious and real that is contributing to everyonein a committed homosexual relationship having their sincerity called into question and their rights debated over while they have to fight tooth and nail to prove that they’re not acting or lying because the idea that homosexuality is an actual sexuality and not a heterosexual’s invented bedroom fantasy flies in the face of nearly everything you hear, watch, or read.
#if you deny the existence of queer fetishization you are probably guilty of queer fetishization
Also let us for a moment consider bisexual fetishization. How many films, tv shows, and even songs have you seen/heard that treat bisexuality as a drunken party trick to turn on partners of the other gender? Not to mention the villainization of bisexuals; the way we are portrayed as slags, home-wreckers, weirdo hippy-dippy types, greedy, sick, traitors, not committed enough in any way, individuals who are to afraid to be just gay, the fact that often we are shut out from the straight and queer communities because of our “inability to decide”, etc.
I know this turned into a bit of a tangent but I think this needs to be talked about as well.